Some thoughts

It's funny how life just takes turns that we really don't like to happen. A death in the family, a friend dies, a car breaks down, house catches on fire, a relationship go south and to two push each other out of their lives, just a bad relationship in general. Most of these things happen without our control at all. We can't control when a family member passes away. We can't control if a part in your car fails and you are left stranded in the middle of nowhere. But, we can control how relationships go.

Being in a relationship is a tricky thing, because our emotions will get the best of us. We think that we are doing the right things but everything changes. The relationship only works when the two members are with each other and when distance comes into the equation everything falls apart. But all these things can be controlled and avoided with the focus being in the right place. With God.

The main issue when it comes to relationships is that an event happens and one side works to try to get everything to be ok. They devote themselves to try to get everything back to order and end up becoming obsessed with the other. There lies the whole problem, putting the other in front of God in your life. God should always be first, no matter what happens and no matter who you meet/are with. But, be aware that listening to God also becomes a troublesome subject.

Even if we think we have everything under control, our emotions will end up making us think we know what God wants for us. We think that God is saying one thing, when He could be saying the other. It can make us come to conclusions that God did not say at all, just because our emotions get in the way. We have to make sure that God has control of our emotions and make sure that God has that in check. Keep God first, and make sure that God has complete control of your life.

Now comes the really hard part, issues. Many times when issues come up relationships just fall apart and end. Some relationships will take some issues but when a huge issue comes along will fall. Other relationship will always persist and will be able to get through all issues. The main point is to let God help you get these issues fixed, and fixed the way God wants them and not the way we want them fixed.

Ok, now if the relationship is still going you need to make sure that God is really at the center of everything. Keep making sure that God is always first, and the other is not. But if the relationship goes down the drain then many different outcomes can come.

The two break off fine and everything is well between them

 The two have a horrible break up and never talk to each other and resent each other for the rest of their lives.

The two are ok with the break up, still feel emotional pain from the separation but are able to move on with everything being fine. Maybe a little distance is created to give each party some times but then all normal actions occur after.

The two are ok with the break up, still feel emotional pain from the separation but are able to move on with everything being fine. But, they decided the the only way for things to come back to a friendship is to completely start over as if they never met before. Basically pushing each other away, not talking, not communicating, until their paths finally meet again.

With any of these outcomes (which there are more that can happen) we have to remember that God will make everything well with time. It might not be anything you expect it to be between the two, but it will be what God wants it to be. You just have to remember one thing if a relationship fails.

Always give God the glory.

From Facing the Gaints

If we win, we give God the glory. And if we lose, we give God the glory.

No matter what happens God should get the Glory. God loves you, and He will help you through any hard times that are ahead of you.