I Will Never

How many times have you said that statement? I will never (insert item here). Like:

I will never date this person

I will never have sex before marriage

I will never listen to this kind of music

I will never drink

I will never do drugs

I will never go to this place

I will never eat this food

I will never grow up to be my parents

I will never do that again

I will never make that mistake again

I will never jump the gun

I will never treat people badly

I will never go to a club

I will never hang with this person again

I will never talk to this person again

I will never join this group of people

Now look back at these and others that you have told yourself.  How many of them have you actually kept. How many times have you said that you will never do something, but then end up caving and doing it at some point in your life. For example, you tell yourself that you will never make the same mistake again. Ok fine, but then later on you find yourself making the exact same mistake that you said you would never do again. Well, I guess that didn't work out.

But now you might be asking the question of why didn't it work.  

"Words have power, so why didn't it work to say that I will never do this again? I kept saying it to myself so that it wouldn't happen, but it did."

Well, there is a very simple answer to this. And the answer is really simple, but we usually miss it. It is involved with one specific word in the statement of "I will never". The word.... is I.

When you say "I will never"  you are actually saying that you won't do something with your power. For example, if you say "I will never drink" then you are saying you will do everything in your power not to drink. For some things your own will power will be enough to stop you from doing it, but there are just somethings that we just can't really control. Most of the time these issues have big emotional attachments.

With the big emotional attachments we seem to not be ourselves anymore. We basically will go with the flow and will about do anything to keep that emotional attachment alive or dead. For example, if you say that you will never have sex before marriage then you are treading on rocky waters. Now yes it might be easy if you don't have a girlfriend, but what happens when you do have a girlfriend and you get into a situation that leaves both of you alone. Emotions can easily rise up and that is where the trouble usually takes place. And most of the time at that moment your will power that says that you won't have sex before marriage seems to be nothing. Then you might end up have sex before you are married.

Another example is saying that you will never drink again. A lot of people drink to get things off their mind, and if that is why you are drinking then how well do you think you will be able to stop. Especially if the event you are trying to drown out with alcohol is painful to you. Your will power will only be able to go so far until you would have to drink to make the pain go away, or the make the memory go away. Then the cycle starts all over again. And again, and again.

But how do you beat these things? How do you actually not do what you say you aren't going to do? It is actually a simple answer the these questions. Instead of going off your own will power to not do these things, go off of God's power. With God will can do all things, not alone we can do all things. So, ask God for the strength to not do something. Stop trying to fight these battles alone, and let God help you. You know that we don't have to go into battle alone against the enemy right? God is gracious enough to lend us a hand in the fight against the enemy. And the best part is that God will always be there with us. God will never leave our side in the battle against the enemy.

So stop fighting alone. Let God fight along side with you.

-KeymasterPL